HIs Heart Trust in You

by Joyce Sykes
Published May 23, 2007

The Lord has been greatly ministering to me for some time about the impact of our words as wives. This train of thought began with an email from a friend about one woman who had made great changes in her marriage by one simple act. Simply by her decision to only speak positive things about her husband. Instead of majoring on his negative, or those little traits that drove her crazy, this woman had made a heart commitment before the Lord to speak only positive words and embrace those good qualities in her husband, not only to her husband, but also before her friends and family.

The results of her actions were impressive. Instead of a home filled with bickering and fighting, it quickly became a retreat, a hide-away from the world. The lines of communications were re-established and this couple was experiencing great joy in their marriage. This wise woman has discovered the truth of Proverbs31:11&12, “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”

Another young woman I know just celebrated her first wedding anniversary confirmed this same reality. She just returned from a weekend trip filled with excitement and love. Yet all the while, she acknowledges the mercy and grace of the Lord. This young couple made the firm decision to center their life and marriage on the Lord. He is their anchor, the very source of their love and commitment toward each other. One sentence reveals her heart, “Everyone told us the first year was the hardest. However, this has been the greatest year of my life. I’m so blessed!”

Both women have embraced Jesus as their Savior and have seen their husbands through the eyes of their Savior. They are determined to be the wives spoken of in Proverbs 31.
I am quite sure that their husbands are just as quirky as everyone else’s is, but they have made a heart decision to see only the positive, and speak positive words. What a joy it is to hear of the words of these women and sees the results of their obedience to the Lord.

Too often as wives, we see our spouse’s faults glaring as neon signs on a moonless night. Yet we fail to realize that this same spouse has to deal with our imperfections as well. As one pastor truthfully spoke to a group of women years ago “The more difficult your spouse is the more God trusted you with him.” I have never forgotten those words and over the years have faced the fact that the opposite is also true for our husbands as they deal with us.

We see their faults but fail to see the good qualities they have. We allow little irritations to tear at the very heart of our marriages. However in all honesty we need to look beyond these events and see them through the eyes of our Savior. The Lord cares as much for his sons as he cares for his daughters. Just as He calls for the men to love their wives as He loves the church, He desires us to be just as loving toward our mate.

Learn to look for the good in this man to which you have made a commitment. Is your husband hardworking? Be grateful he loves his family enough to be concerned for their provision. Is he faithful? Be thankful that you are secure in his arms of love. Is he thoughtful and caring? Does he show his love in the little things he does? Is he a good father? Maybe he is just as caring for your family as he is toward his own.

For those women who are struggling with a spouse who is not serving the Lord. See him as the Lord sees him – lost, without hope and pray daily for the Lord to reveal Himself to him. Let the love of the Lord shine through you. Realize that it will be through your actions and not your words that you make the biggest impact. Nothing you say will ever change him, but you can rest in the knowledge that your Lord and Savior can.

Blessings
Joyce Sykes

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